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When vows to love him or her until death do you part fades… emotionally dragging and painful situation will come in a person’s life. Divorce is a crisis which has a great impact to the lives of everyone involved especially the children. It is saying good bye to what you used to have and at the same time saying hello to a new beginning. After divorce is a new chapter in your book but YOU don’t have to do this alone.
Those feeling of loss, betrayal, rejection, confusion, uncertainty and a broken heart are part of the consequences. This would never be easy especially when you are not the one who was left. It is a natural feel that you still long and love your partner because you gave a part of you to him, loved him as much as you could and vowed to be with the person till the very end. Unfortunately, it’s the end of the line and romance. It’s hard to change a person’s mind anymore and it would not be good to force the person to change his mind. You can never beg and force him to come back to you. If he does then it’s not love. It’s pity.
The feeling of being rejected after divorce doesn’t define your worth. You are still the unique person who you are, with talents and dreams. The feeling of hatred towards your partner will not set you free. Instead it will kill your happiness and trap your world in a box of bitterness.
The after divorce situation is not something you can take a medicine or a nap and to make it go away. It is something that has to be worked through slowly by slowly till things would be okay. This is to bring out the genuine healing of the broken heart and prevent the risk of rebound situation. But, you don’t have to stop to where you are right now. You must ask yourself, “So WHAT’S NEXT?” It isn’t easy, and oftentimes, it is not what we would have chosen, but there are still choices you can make as you deal with this new situation.
Truth hurts but it will also set you free. You have to stand up for yourself and for your children. You have to set as an example to them that it is not the end of the world. You must stand up and face what comes next. It’s ok to give yourself time to work through this. You don’t have to crumble underneath the sheets of depression, self-pity, and hatred.
Find yourself again. Start making choices which will keep you going and growing in the right direction. Talk to your children for they are also affected with the situation. Make a plan about your life and your family. Is everything enough? Is everything stable in terms of finances?
You can ask for support. Interacting with peers would make you stronger and will make you feel you are not alone. Do exercise, workout, be fit, eat nutritious and be healthy. Make time for the new you. Give yourself a treat, travel and enjoy what you want to do. Find your passion and enjoy your hobby.
You can set your goals in life and make them possible. Create new memories with your love ones. Protect yourself in future relationships. After divorce, after all the pain, after all those sleepless nights and after all those tears being shed just start loving yourself and feel great about who you are and embrace the new freedom.
You can ask for support. Interacting with peers would make you stronger and will make you feel you are not alone. Do exercise, workout, be fit, eat nutritious and be healthy. Make time for the new you. Give yourself a treat, travel and enjoy what you want to do. Find your passion and enjoy your hobby.
You can set your goals in life and make them possible. Create new memories with your love ones. Protect yourself in future relationships. After divorce, after all the pain, after all those sleepless nights and after all those tears being shed just start loving yourself and feel great about who you are and embrace the new freedom.
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