Right way of texting girls

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Are you to shy to approach the girl you like? Thank God cellular phones have been invented! This is one of the tools to save those shy guys from being completely hopeless towards a girl. When you want to bring yourself closer to a girl but you’re afraid to approach her, go and find a way to get her number.

First things first, prepare yourself to what may happen. Think before you make your move. Remember to stay true to yourself and never say anything that you can’t prove. Take note not to over describe yourself, girl’s hate liars. Just be casual and nice.

Check her schedules. It is hard to completely know the activities she does everyday. But, as a guy who wants to ask for her time you should check when she’s busy and when she’s free. Don’t ever ruin her moment when she’s having fun. Get that perfect timing. You can text her at night before she sleeps.

Always start simple. Your story can start with just a simple “Hello”. Start your conversation the way you want your first real life conversation to go. Keep your toes in its place, though. Even if you like the girl so much, keep your feelings to yourself first. Take everything slowly. There’s no need to rush when you want a good result.

Make her feel special. Texting girls need to be creative. You should be consistent with your words. Send her a “Good morning (insert girl’s name here)” this will make her think that the moment you wake up she’s the first time that come out from your mind. It’s also good to appreciate her and ask her about her day when she’s sad, comfort her. When she’s confused, help her as much as you can. When she’s happy, go along with her.

Keep it short and sweet. In order to keep her, avoid lengthy texts. Long messages may take time to arrive and will just ruin her mood and feel bored texting you. You have to keep it short but very conversational. 

Find your common interest. One thing that keeps her away from boredom is to talk about the things she likes. Good for you if you have the same interest. This will help to keep the conversation going. You can share each other’s ideas or point of view towards the stuffs. If you don’t have the same interests, ask about hers. Maybe you’ll end up liking them too.

Spice-up your conversation. This might be a risk, but very effective. Try sometimes to be naughty and weigh how she responds. This will tickle the inner personality of the girl and will lead you to a fun and hot conversation. Note: this is not applicable to all girls so read her personality before trying this one out.

Be someone who’s always there for her. Girls tend to be so emotional and they need someone whom she can share her heart aches or feelings. It would be a good gentleman move to comfort her and listen. Girls need someone who will listen to them. Grab this opportunity to make her feel you care for her and you don’t want to see her sad. Cheer her up and try to lighten her load.

There are still a lot of ways you can do in texting girls. Your fate lies at the tip of your fingers. Keep in mind to always respect a girl. Every girl is unique and special. Do your very best to make feel happy even through sending her text message.

Making up after a fight

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You can’t escape the fact that in each relationship, you encounter fights. Whether the issue is big or small, what matters is how you make up after each argument. There are factors which affect your approach to your partner. In fights, you have to resolve the issues. Think first; don’t let emotions overpower your word. Talk about the issue in a calm way in order to achieve peace and harmony in your relationship. 

After a fight, you can rebuild again and wipe those tears and heartaches away. Try to be adventurous again. You can travel together and make memories. Try new sports or go into the waters and enjoy each moment together. This will bring you closer because you will get to explore things together.

For the guys out there, girls love to be surprised. They feel more loved this way. Try setting up a candle-lit dinner. You can give her flowers or buy something she really wants to have. You can also surprise her in a public place where everyone can see how much you love her. Letting the world know how much you love your girl makes her feel really special. 

You can also try helping her in the things she does like offering in doing the chores. It will be lovely to give her a rest-and-spa day. Just leave your papers and laptop and do the laundry and dishes. It will sound sweet for your wife. If you know how to cook, you can prepare something special. Girls love guys who cook well.

In making up, it is essential to bring back the joy, excitement and forget the wounds. Just keep in mind that the following factors are so essential in a relationship:

HONESTY. In a relationship, build trust. You can evade longer arguments and lessen the hurt and pain you feel by being honest with each other. Take note that if you are serious in your relationship, then you are obliged to remain truthful. If you are not honest in the preliminaries of your relationship, how much more would it be if you will be married?

TRUST. It is something that couples should have in order to have a stable relationship and in making up. Trust resolves issues by allowing your partner to feel confident that you won’t make the same mistake again. Trust also builds the relationship by strengthening your bond, and in that, it makes making up easier. It is a key foundation that determines whether you should continue on with your relationship.

PRIDE. Everybody has it and everybody has a hard time controlling it, even cloud- nine lovers. In this issue, you should both should lower your pride and think of what really matters--is it your ego or the relationship? When you both lower your pride, it is easy to accept who's wrong and who will forgive.

LOVE. This is the most important of all. Without this, the three other factors will not follow at all. Love makes the world go round and this goes the same in relationships. Imagine it as a wheel of a car that if love doesn’t make it round, then the car would go nowhere. Love encompasses everything and should be the main player in making up. Without love, any relationship would crumble in the first sign of a fight.

Basically, if you have a fight with your partner, just clear the issues. Then, making up will be a piece of cake. Remember that the both of you should be patient and understand each other’s differences, and then your relationship will go a long way.

Dating a dating married man

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Dating?... Married man?... Do you really want to do this? Ask that to yourself. Oh come on! Wake up girl! Even how many zillion times you turn the globe you can never change the fact that he’s married and there you are sitting pretty becoming the home wrecker. Even you find him and his wife in a terrible situation, the fact that you are intruding and forcing yourself to fit in it will never go right. You must weigh thing up and think whether it is love or just lust.

This might sound so painful to hear especially when you get too attached to the married mad. But, seriously you are being placed on the sidelines. Some men just can’t stop themselves and will cross over the line. You can’t be too dumb to be fooled and to love a married man. The fact that he has his family and children is a big sign that you are just putting yourself in a terrible situation. It’s wrong to hurt others even how much you hide it. You know it’s lying to his family and to YOURSELF. 

Remember, the wife deserves the man’s attention and effort. At the first place the wife comes first. She has been through a lot more than you know. Even how struggling they are in their relationship you don’t have the right to be an additional factor to ruin everything they build up together.

Open your eyes, you might seem be happy dating “rich” married man and enjoy all the luxury in life, but value yourself as a woman. Labeled as the “mistress” never sounds good. If you’re in his wife’s shoes, how would you feel if his cheating? You might probably pull a gun and put it on the bitch’s head (that’s violent by the way). Be sensitive and don’t be selfish. Understand and respect others’ feelings. The children doesn’t deserve all the pain in the situation. 

It’s time for you to decide and make up your mind. Put your relationship to end. The best thing to do is to back-off and leave them alone. I know you would feel broken and pain will come next. At the end of everything you are the loser even if he would leave his family just to be with you. You can’t trade your virtues just for a man who’s already committed. Remember, he lied to his wife, to his children and to the world. And know what’s worst? He poisoned your brain. A real man knows his responsibility and knows what best for everyone. He will never be the right person for you. Set the married man free. Go back to your single life and look for a man who’s willing to take you to church and be his wife. You deserve to be the first and not the second nor the third.

When is the right time to ask a girl out?

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You have this ultimate girl crush at school and you’re dying to ask her out, but you don’t get the nerve. You are afraid that you might get rejected and receive a big NO. If you want to ask a girl out, it’s just easy as a pie when you've got CONFIDENCE, SINCERITY and the proper TIMING whether you are a suitor, a friend, a boyfriend or a husband. 

In the dating world, it’s all about guts and being true to yourself. Well, the first thing is FOCUS. It is better to know the girl you want to ask out. It is better to start from the lowest level of interaction, like as friends. There, you will get to know the girl better and have the chance to know her interests and likes and build trust. TRUST is very important, because it won’t have doubts being with you. Every girl wants security and assurance that she’s going to be safe dating with you so that she will not treat you as a stranger. Remember, the word "friend" in boyfriend is there for a reason. Your aim is to for her feel comfortable and make her want to be with you.

When you get the chance to communicate with her often, be positive and entertaining. I’m not saying you need to act like a clown; just be funny and humorous. Girls love guys who are fun to be with and will keep her away from boredom. Maintain eye contact or always look at her face, not anywhere else (worst are the boobs and butt). She might think you are planning something wrong and want her clothes off. Don’t touch her first. Wait for her to initiate the move. This will assure you that she won’t feel anything bad when you touch her. Still, remember that you have your limits.

Rejection will come along. She might be busy or she really doesn’t like going out with you. Don’t take it emotionally. Instead, keep yourself steady. Maybe, it is not the right time for her or she might not be really into you. Just move on and try to ask another one. That’s life. You don’t always win a game. 

To get her sweetest YES, it’s very important to win her heart. The moment you build the friendship, try to show her that you like being with her. Be kind, sweet and creative each time you get the chance to be with her. You must also look for and observe her responses to your moves. If she gets along with you, then keep moving. You might be nearer than you think.

If you're already her man, most times you ask her out is when you celebrate you monthsary, anniversary, birthdays or any special occasion. Sometimes, you probably ask her out after a fight for you to make up and rebuild the broken parts. As a boyfriend, it’s your faithful duty to spice up your relationship. Same goes for the married dudes out there. Here are the basic things to do when you ask your girl out: 

• Read her mood. Look if she's sad, depressed, stressed, bored and other emotions she can show. Boyfriends by this time take it easier since you’ve known your girl for quite some time, but for those who are still on the verge of becoming one, you need to learn this trick. 
• Check her schedule. Some girls can sacrifice their schedule while some don’t. So if she has a busy schedule, ask her out and just adjust to when she prefers. But, remember to not brag too much. This will irritate her and it will make things harder for you the next time. 
• If you want to ask a girl out, you should leave an impression on her whether she rejects the offer or not. Someday, she might come to her senses and may ask you out. 
• Opt for good and safe dates. Failures happen, but always remember that every girl is a new book. Some may not be the same with others, so it is also important to experiment and add spice to these basic stuffs. 

Overall, just keep in mind that the best to ask a girl out is the perfect moment you are happy doing things together.

What is Life After Divorce

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When vows to love him or her until death do you part fades… emotionally dragging and painful situation will come in a person’s life. Divorce is a crisis which has a great impact to the lives of everyone involved especially the children. It is saying good bye to what you used to have and at the same time saying hello to a new beginning. After divorce is a new chapter in your book but YOU don’t have to do this alone.

Those feeling of loss, betrayal, rejection, confusion, uncertainty and a broken heart are part of the consequences. This would never be easy especially when you are not the one who was left. It is a natural feel that you still long and love your partner because you gave a part of you to him, loved him as much as you could and vowed to be with the person till the very end. Unfortunately, it’s the end of the line and romance. It’s hard to change a person’s mind anymore and it would not be good to force the person to change his mind. You can never beg and force him to come back to you. If he does then it’s not love. It’s pity. 

The feeling of being rejected after divorce doesn’t define your worth. You are still the unique person who you are, with talents and dreams. The feeling of hatred towards your partner will not set you free. Instead it will kill your happiness and trap your world in a box of bitterness.

The after divorce situation is not something you can take a medicine or a nap and to make it go away. It is something that has to be worked through slowly by slowly till things would be okay. This is to bring out the genuine healing of the broken heart and prevent the risk of rebound situation. But, you don’t have to stop to where you are right now. You must ask yourself, “So WHAT’S NEXT?” It isn’t easy, and oftentimes, it is not what we would have chosen, but there are still choices you can make as you deal with this new situation. 

Truth hurts but it will also set you free. You have to stand up for yourself and for your children. You have to set as an example to them that it is not the end of the world. You must stand up and face what comes next. It’s ok to give yourself time to work through this. You don’t have to crumble underneath the sheets of depression, self-pity, and hatred.

Find yourself again. Start making choices which will keep you going and growing in the right direction. Talk to your children for they are also affected with the situation. Make a plan about your life and your family. Is everything enough? Is everything stable in terms of finances?
You can ask for support. Interacting with peers would make you stronger and will make you feel you are not alone. Do exercise, workout, be fit, eat nutritious and be healthy. Make time for the new you. Give yourself a treat, travel and enjoy what you want to do. Find your passion and enjoy your hobby.
You can set your goals in life and make them possible. Create new memories with your love ones. Protect yourself in future relationships. After divorce, after all the pain, after all those sleepless nights and after all those tears being shed just start loving yourself and feel great about who you are and embrace the new freedom. 

Effects of Divorce on Children

I Need A Boyfriend

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You probably don’t need any commitment for now and still enjoying your single life. But, as you go to places when you are surrounded with couples you feel you’re in Noah’s ark and you think having someone special in life might be good one.  You can never buy a boyfriend at store for dollars but you have your feet to find one.  If finding your boyfriend wanna be is kinda difficult, you can try  a lot thing.

Present yourself at your VERY best and feel your best. Before anything else, boys always give an eye to the body and appearance of the girl and make a quick judgement whether you’re worthy for his time or automatically a NO NO. This doesn’t tell you that you need to look as gorgeous like Victoria Secret Angels. But, you should look presentable and lovely to look at. Remember, be a head turner and first impressions last. They way you bring yourself out reflects your personality. Be the one who every guy dreams. Ever leave the house without doing any little fixing of yourself because you’ll never know it’s the day you’ll meet your guy.  Don’t over do makeup. As much as possible look simple and natural.

Be happy always. It’s nice to see a happy girl compared to overly stressed-out girl with a sad face on a street. A smile is power that it attracts people and gives good vibes. Although sometimes being single is stressful the sudden shift from single life to being a good girlfriend is even more stressful. It is bucked up with even more potential stress and nerve cracking issues. But, what ever it is in life and whether you are caring a label as girlfriend it is still very important to be happy and stay happy. 

There are a lot of fish in the sea, but sadly not all of them are a good catch. So, you better give some time and patience to get a good one. It actually pointless wasting your time to someone who you don’t really like. Invest your precious time and effort to look good for someone you think you deserve to have. At the end of the day it's all about finding a good boyfriend. 

Now, it’s time for you to do the moves, be aggressive and use body language. Guys get intimidated on girls based on their actions. Sometimes they are afraid to do the first move for they think the girl would just ignore him. Have that bucket filled of confidence. It will give you that edge that grabs his attention even when you don’t think you’re looking you best. If you’ve got his attention, then you’re free to say “gatcha!”

Playing hard to get is sometimes not a good thing to do. Guys will think you are snob instead, try to at least give them attention and listen to what they are saying and trying to prove. This will open your doors to more prospect boyfriend and will make you know them even more.

When almost every one in your peers has their mates, don’t feel upset and jealous. Keep calm girl and smile act as if you are not affected even if it kills you deep inside. It’s not the end of the world. 

Read guys, if he doesn’t show any motive then let go and go get a new one. Always think that you deserve the best and if he’s not really into you, well that’s his loss. You do have your stilettos, forget him anyway. 

Join groups with high population of boys than girls. Do the aggressive move but still remain that demure element. You can never catch a guy on your own room (totally impossible) so better go to crowd and mingle. Although being forward may seem awkward, it will help you to catch a guy’s attention. Find your perfect angle and practice the sexy smile. Do the pose where in he wouldn’t be intimidated to move closer like looking at him with a half smile. 

Use the Internet. Social networking sites are the fastest way to track good looking people. Post pictures of you (stay cautious for privacy, know your limits) and be active and humorous. This will give guys the impression you’re fun to be with.

Looking for sporty hottie boys? Get your ass of and go to gym. Wear clothes that will enhance your features. Join classes where you can get the chance of meeting more prospects you can also try biking around your area or have a morning run.

Put that black mini dress and some bling on and head to a bar on an off night. Dance and chat with people. Go with friends they might have other friends too who they can introduce you. In you have some bucks, throw a party. It’s nice to be social sometimes. Bring friends together and they might bring their other friends too.

There are a lot of things you can do. Just don’t rush. It’s painful to end up with the wrong one. If you’re still waiting enjoy your single life. I pretty sure you’ll miss it when you already have a boyfriend.

Never Had A Boyfriend

Finding Mr. Right

Mr. Right

How lovely it is to wake up each morning knowing that the Mr. Right is just right by your side. Most girls dream of happy ever after and being swept off her feet by Prince Charming a.k.a Mr. Right while doing something like crossing the street, buying groceries, riding a bus and all sorts of mundane things. Girls love to fantasize how lovely it is to fall in love and to be loved. But, sometimes we find ourselves alone and wondering if there is really someone out there really meant for us.

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The thing about us girls is that sometimes we have this super impossible standards and we tend to be very choosy. We dream of having this perfect guy standing in front of us saying those perfect words at the perfect moment and everything turns out to be so magical. Sometimes, some are over aggressive which scares guys while others tend to act to be someone else when meeting up a potential Mr. Right. This will not help the situation. The best thing is to check and weigh things up.

First, be the Ms. Right who you think Mr. Right wants to see in white gown and marry. Check yourself. Be attractive as much as you could and bring out all the positive vibes in you. The positive your aura will come out and will give you that blooming look. Try doing some make over like new hairstyle, new clothes, and new get up. Go to gym when you feel you need to lose some pounds. Enjoy life and use your hobby to explore places. You’ll never know Mr. Right is just right there.

Know what you are looking for a man. Don’t just base on the physical appearance. Look deeper on a personality you’ll love to meet and someone that would match your personality. Know the possible places to meet him. Like if you’re looking for faithful ones then you probably meet them in church. If you’re looking for fit and hottie guys try going to different gyms. 

Share your feelings to your family and friends. They can help you meet someone they know that would match your personality. You might find Mr. Right among your friends. Maybe you’re just too blind of not seeing that the one you are looking for is the person you already met like a childhood friend or a best friend. Also live your life to the fullest  and explore the world. There are billions of single people out there. Don’t let your lazy sleepy head over power your mood. Get out of your room and be adventurous.

Know your previous mistakes. Evaluate how you handled your previous relationships. Be open for changes and don’t be afraid to try falling in love again. There is no such thing as perfect man but Mr. Right would do his very best to make this perfect for you no matter how hard the situation is. Mr. Right wouldn’t be Mr. Right if he can’t be with you in sickness and in health. Just be cautious of those wrong guys saying all those rosy romantic right words that would make you believe he is the one. Remember, anything that comes fast would be gone fast. Take things slowly. Believe there is someone out there also dreaming of meeting you as his Ms. Right. Mr. Right will come at the right love, right time, right place and right moment. Just be patient and your true love will last for a life time.